The Power of Listening: Building Student Relationships in Special Education
- Samantha Fecich
- Feb 5, 2019
- 2 min read
Updated: Jun 12
In this heartfelt guest post, Rebecca Krupp shares how building relationships with students, especially those with communication challenges, can transform the classroom experience. As a recent graduate with a degree in elementary and special education from Grove City College, Rebecca reflects on a powerful moment from her student teaching that continues to shape her approach to education.
Building Student Relationships: More Than Just Icebreakers
When we discuss forming relationships with students, we often focus on surface-level strategies, such as interest surveys, get-to-know-you games, and attending extracurricular events. But during my first student teaching placement in a K–2 autism support classroom, I learned that connection goes far deeper than that.
Most of my students were nonverbal and used American Sign Language (ASL) or communication devices to communicate. They were bright, funny, and honest—and they taught me more than I could have imagined.
A Breakthrough Moment in Student Communication
One student in particular left a lasting impact. Despite our efforts to support his communication through American Sign Language (ASL) and assistive devices, he struggled to express his needs. I worked with him one-on-one often and began to understand his unique approach to communication.
One day, during lunch, he became upset and started throwing food. After helping him clean up, we went to the sensory room. I knew he was hungry, so I signed “eat” and asked if he wanted food. He didn’t respond—just tried to leave. I gently blocked the door and asked again. This repeated a few times, and I could see his frustration building.
Just as I was about to give up, he looked me in the eyes and angrily signed “eat.” It was the first time he had used a sign with me. I was stunned—and thrilled.
We returned to the lunchroom, and I gave him food. When he finished, he signed “eat” again. I gave him more, and I watched the realization dawn on him: his voice mattered.
From that moment on, our relationship changed. He trusted me. He came to me when others didn’t understand him. He took risks, attempted new tasks, and slowly began signing with other teachers. Once he knew he was heard, he began to thrive.
The Lesson: Listening Builds Trust
The biggest lesson I learned? Being heard is powerful. When students know their voice matters—whether spoken, signed, or typed—they begin to trust, grow, and engage.
So, when you're looking for ways to build genuine relationships with your students, start by listening. Communication is the foundation of every strong relationship, and your students have so much to say—if we’re willing to hear them.
Reflect and Share
Wow—what a powerful story. How have you truly listened to your students this week? Have you had a breakthrough moment like Rebecca’s?
Let’s keep the conversation going:
How do you build trust with your students?
What strategies help you connect with nonverbal or neurodiverse learners?

About the Author: Rebecca Krupp
Rebecca Krupp holds a degree in elementary and special education from Grove City College. She is the founder of @thegeniuscorps, a program that connects local colleges and universities with middle schools to provide high-quality, accessible science experiences. Rebecca loves the mountains, the color brown, and spending time with her dogs and little cousins.